Is He A Bad Texter Or Just Not Into Me?

You’ve been texting him for weeks and you’re starting to wonder if he’s a bad texter or just not into you. You’ve sent him numerous texts and he always takes hours, sometimes even days, to respond.

When he does finally text back, his responses are short and seem uninterested. You start to think that maybe he’s just not that into you. But then you remember the times when he responded right away and had long, engaging conversations with you.

You start to second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re overthinking things. Maybe he’s just busy or maybe he really is interested in you but isn’t sure how to show it. It’s so confusing!

You just wish you could figure out what was going on in his head.

How Long Have You Been Texting Each Other?

If you’ve only been texting each other for a week or two, then it’s possible that he’s just busy and hasn’t had the time to respond to your messages. Give him a little more time before you start to worry that he’s not interested.

However, if you’ve been texting each other for a month or more and he’s still taking a long time to respond, then it’s more likely that he’s not that into you. A guy who’s interested in you will usually make an effort to reply to your texts quickly.

What Do His Texts Say?

Another thing to consider is what his texts say. If they’re short and uninterested, it’s a bad sign. However, if he occasionally sends you long, detailed texts, then it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you.

It’s also worth noting how often he sends texts the first to get things started. If he never texts you first and only responds to your texts, likely, he’s not that interested. A guy who’s interested in you will usually make an effort to text you first.

When Was The Last Time You Saw Each Other?

If you haven’t seen each other in a while, he may be just not sure how to show his interest. Sometimes, guys can be shy about showing their feelings. If you’ve been texting each other for a while and he hasn’t made any effort to see you, he may be just not that into you.

However, if you have seen each other recently and he’s still not making any move to show his interest, it’s more likely that he’s not interested.

How long does he take to respond to your texts?

If he takes a long time to respond to your texts, it’s more likely that he’s not interested. A guy who’s interested in you will usually make an effort to reply to your texts quickly.

In short, if you’ve been texting each other for a while and he hasn’t made any effort to see you, it’s more likely that he’s not interested.

Second, consider what his texts say. If they’re short and uninterested, it’s a bad sign. However, if he occasionally sends you long, detailed texts, then it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you.

It’s also worth noting how often he sends texts the first to get things started. If he never texts you first and only responds to your texts, likely, he’s not that interested. A guy who’s interested in you will usually make an effort to at least sometimes text you first.

When he does respond, are his replies short and uninterested?

If his replies are short and uninterested, it’s a bad sign. A guy who’s interested in you will usually make an effort to keep the conversation going by asking you questions and being engaged in what you’re saying.

Have you had any long, engaging conversations with him over text?

If you have had long, engaging conversations with him over text, it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you. An interested guy will usually make an effort to keep the conversation going and ask you questions about yourself.

Are you overthinking things?

Are you stuck in your head thinking about bad things?

You might be overthinking things if you’re constantly worrying that he’s not interested in you. If you’re finding it hard to enjoy your conversations with him because you’re worried about what he’s thinking, then you’re probably overthinking things.

Try to relax and enjoy your conversations with him. If he’s interested in you, he’ll show it. If he’s not, then there’s nothing you can do about it.

What do you think is going on in his head?

If you told him how much you were thinking about this he would think you are insecure.

You might be right that he’s not interested, but overthinking things will only make you more anxious and stressed. Relax and enjoy your conversations with him. If he’s interested in you, he’ll show it. If he’s not, then there’s nothing you can do about it. Trust your gut and don’t overthink things.

Do you only text each other or do you also talk on the phone or in-person?

If you only text each other, it’s harder to gauge his interest. If you also talk on the phone or in person, it’s easier to see if he’s interested in you. For example, if he’s interested in you, he’ll probably make more of an effort to talk to you in person and ask you questions about yourself.

In short, if you only text each other, it’s harder to gauge his interest. If you also talk on the phone or in person, it’s easier to see if he’s interested in you.

Do you have any mutual friends?

If you have any mutual friends, they may be able to give you some insight into his interest level. For example, if he’s interested in you, he may have told your mutual friends that he likes you.

In short, if you have any mutual friends, they may be able to give you some insight into his interest level.

What are conversations like? Are they flirtatious, friendly, or just boring?

If the conversations are flirtatious, it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you. If they’re friendly, it could mean that he’s interested in you or just wants to be friends. If they’re boring, it’s a bad sign and likely means he’s not interested in you.

In short, if the conversations are flirtatious, it’s a green light for relationship magic. If they’re friendly, it could mean that he’s interested in you or maybe just wants to be friends. Gotta remember attraction is not a choice.

If they’re boring, it’s a bad sign and likely means he’s not going to pursue you as a romantic interest.

What has he said about you to other people?

If he’s said good things about you to other people, it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you. If he’s said bad things about you to other people, it’s a bad sign and likely means he’s not interested in you.

What is your gut feeling about the situation?

If you have a gut feeling that he’s interested in you, then he probably is. If you have a gut feeling that he’s not interested in you, then he probably isn’t.

Your gut is usually right about these things, so trust it.

The bottom line

If you’ve been texting each other for a while and he hasn’t made any effort to see you, it’s more likely that he’s not interested.

Second, consider what his texts say. If they’re short and uninterested, it’s a bad sign. However, if he occasionally sends you long, detailed texts, then it’s a good sign that he’s interested in you.